so many mothers

April 13th, 2016

So much love.

The neonatologist, wheeling us out of NICU for the drive home: “Don’t worry. She’s strong and full of life.”

My mother, wearing a wig after chemo, holding my daughter for the first time: “I never thought this would happen.”

The pediatrician, about my difficulty breastfeeding: “Don’t let this come between you and your baby.”

The best friend, whenever I needed it: “She looks like you.”

The babysitter, on her first day: “We love each other already!”

The grandmother at the park, remembering life with her twin babies: “I had to get the laundry going every morning by 9.”

The nursery school teacher, before she had words: “She is a genius.”

The stranger watching her hoist herself to the top of the slide: “She’ll be a gymnast one day.”

The kindergarten teacher, on our first visit to the classroom: “I’d say she’s ready.”

The teacher at the parent conference: “She’s friends with everyone.”

The gymnastics coach: “You can be on our team.”

A fellow parent confronting the mystery of sixth grade math: “I have faith that they will figure it out.”

The Algebra teacher: “You know you can do it. Just give yourself time.”

The friend, after her admission to art school: “It’s what she was born to do.”

The English teacher, even after her panic attack in the classroom: “She’s the kind of student who will do well anywhere.”

Her counselor, when she had been frightfully sad, lonely and confused: “What an amazing young woman your daughter is.”

My mother, knowing her time was near: “I’ve often thought she came to take my place.”


Remembering so many mothers on the anniversary of my mother’s passing April 13, 2001.


  1. <3

    Comment by Daniel Scharpenburg — April 13, 2016 @ 5:33 am

  2. such touchstone moments pass between mother and child affirmed by community. . . such a gift to hold within our hearts. . .

    Comment by Amy Robertson — April 13, 2016 @ 5:46 am

  3. So much love. It takes every little bit, doesn’t it?

    Comment by Maria Jones — April 13, 2016 @ 6:34 am

  4. Love and blessings Maezen.

    Comment by Marcea Pugliese — April 13, 2016 @ 7:35 am

  5. Such a lovely tribute to your Mother and daughter.

    Comment by Shawn — April 13, 2016 @ 7:43 am

  6. How lovely. Thank you for sharing.

    Comment by Laura — April 13, 2016 @ 9:15 am

  7. Love you Maezen

    Comment by Barbara H — April 13, 2016 @ 10:00 am

  8. So, so much love to you on this day. xoxox

    Comment by Lindsey — April 13, 2016 @ 10:03 am

  9. Love to you, Maezen.

    Comment by Diamond Cambareri — April 13, 2016 @ 10:59 am

  10. Thank you.


    Comment by Jude Smith — April 13, 2016 @ 3:58 pm

  11. What a beautiful photo of the two of them!

    Comment by Trish Leighton — April 14, 2016 @ 5:17 am

  12. Just beautiful!

    Comment by Julie — April 14, 2016 @ 5:35 am

  13. Thank you so much for this Karen! Makes me remember all the amazing mothers in my life – my wife and my mother foremost in my mind. My mom passed away three years ago (November 18th), which changed everything in a big way.

    May all beings everywhere know the comfort of a loving mother!


    Comment by David LaFever — April 14, 2016 @ 8:47 am

  14. Inspiring, Maezen!
    Thank you for sharing the spirit of your mother and the spirit of mothering with all of us;)

    Comment by Lynn Salmon-Easter — April 14, 2016 @ 9:05 am

  15. Beautiful photo, beautiful tribute. XOC

    Comment by Clare — April 14, 2016 @ 3:04 pm

  16. I received this in the mail: “…that to find beauty in everyone you must see beauty
    in everyone, then announce that you see it, for in announcing it,
    you place it there in their reality.” (Neale Donald Walsch)
    It reminded me of this post and I also think it is one of the reasons why I love your blog, you help me see a different reality. Have a wonderful day!

    Comment by Simone — April 15, 2016 @ 2:37 am

  17. Maezen, so glad your mother got to hold your daughter. She knew. I visited my mom 3 weeks before she passed(10 years now). She didn’t know me but when I told her I was headed back to New Mexico, her eyes light up and she said, “Oh, my daughter lives there, do you know her?”
    They know. Maybe all mothers now.

    deep bow

    Comment by Mary Sherman — April 15, 2016 @ 6:11 am

  18. That was a lovely tribute to your daughter and mother. We are so blessed to have daughters and mothers and sons and fathers. Family is wonderful even with problems.
    Kind wishes

    Comment by Wendy — April 21, 2016 @ 3:47 am

  19. This is gorgeous. <3

    Comment by Jen — April 22, 2016 @ 4:17 am

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