Are snowflakes really Christian?

December 4th, 2009

Today’s guest blogger Joanna Brooks grew up in a conservative Mormon household in the orange groves of Cold War southern California. Now, she’s an award winning writer and religion scholar working on Mormon Girl: An Unorthodox Memoir of Belief and Belonging. Find her at

The Starbucks cups have changed from green and white to red. Here in San Diego, that’s how we know the season has descended, lumbering down from the sky in a haze of petroleum fumes like a jumbo jet full of trouble.

My husband, David, is a Buddhist Jew. I’m a Mormon feminist. Which means, of course, we do it all—Hannukah, Christmas, walking meditation—and we pretty much do it all wrong.

Like the year I rushed to Target on Hannukah Eve to seize the last roll of always-always-understocked blue wrapping paper (anti-Semites! retail outrage!) only to discover upon arriving home that I had failed because there were white snowflakes embossed on the gift tags and according to David snowflakes are in fact Christian.

Or the year David made our first Christmas Eve dinner in our very own house—as a sign of his devotion, the most gourmet and goyische feast one could imagine, starring a roast pork loin stuffed with gourmet cubed bacon—only to end up spending the earliest hours of his Christmas morning hunched over a toilet hurling up bacon-stuffed-pork.

Ahead of us stands a full month of obligatory giftings, truckloads of sugar, frypans of spent oil, grocery sacks of potato peelings, barrels of crumpled gift wrap, kennel stays, viruses in waves, drought, bleating plastic toys assembled by the tiny fingers of Chinese children, long freeway commutes, pottytraining, baby Jesi (that would be plural for Jesus) stolen from manger scenes and nursed at the breast by young daughters, stacks of final examinations, computer crashes, missed deadlines, burnt tempers, hair and dust congealing on the floors, and two wars we never voted for grinding along in the background.

And somewhere in this mess, allegedly, is God.

What we do not have is a Christmas tree. Like many Jews, my husband is allergic to Christmas trees. It’s a social allergy with deep historical roots. What is the Christmas tree but the mermaid on the prow of the ship of Germanic cultural conquest, the USS Anschluss?

What we do have is our annual opportunity to redevelop our sense of humor. Riddles. Miracles. Tales of improbability and overcoming. For example, how does a virgin give birth? Or, how does one day’s supply of oil last for eight? Or, what happens to Jewish husbands who eat bacon-stuffed-pork on Christmas Eve? And, our personal household favorite, are snowflakes really Christian?

All around us the people of San Diego sense the earth turning away from the sun. They retrieve great rolls of dingy white batting from the rafters of their garages and anchor them to their thirsty lawns. They unstring great yardages of small plastic lights and plug into high voltage power grids. Like locusts, they begin to consume whatever sweet, shiny, noisy things appear.

David and I draw a bright circle around January 1. We break the emergency glass and don the magic goggles that will help us distinguish compulsion from custom from spiritual nourishment. We take one last breath of air untainted by sugar and plastic and gasoline fumes and clasp hands as the holiday season rolls in.

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  1. I loved this! Riddles? Miracles? Jesi! Thank you.

    Comment by Nancy — December 4, 2009 @ 1:40 pm

  2. Thank you! From the bottom of a heart that embraces both Buddhism, Judism & Agnosticism…thank you. The closer the end of the year gets, the more depressed I get because all the symbols mean nothing but expended energy and exhaustion to me. I just want to love my family and friends with all my heart, no matter what the season. So…{hugs} Undecided out.

    Comment by shannon esposito — December 5, 2009 @ 4:54 am

  3. "allegedly…" loved that line!!!

    this post coincided with a discussion with my 10-yr-old daughter about the "virgin birth." "that's ridiculous," she said. "that's why *they* call it a miracle," i said. moments later, we were watching the snowflakes fall, examining each magnificent one. "now THIS is what you call a miracle," she said.

    wise little girl.

    Comment by Terri Fischer — December 7, 2009 @ 3:13 am

  4. I loved this and can completely relate. I was raised by jews that were most certainly allergic to xmas trees and my husband was raised by a quaker and a pagan.

    We blew the whole holiday hoopla off until we had kids who are wondering what this Subaru-sized inflatable Santa is doing on our neighbor's lawn (and goodness, so are we!). And so we're cobbling something together and it looks a little like santa, the buddha, and jesus all got together to light the menorah and praise the daylight. But I think it's working.

    Comment by 6512 and growing — December 8, 2009 @ 11:02 pm

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