what I could have said

December 3rd, 2015

Stillness-1

Though I think not
To think about it,
I do think about it
And shed tears
Thinking about it.

—Ryokan

I could have said good morning.
Are you hungry?
Did you sleep okay?
Are you warm enough?
They say it might rain today.
You look happy.
Sounds like fun.
Sounds perfect.
Have a good time.
Enjoy yourself.
Love your shoes.
Love your hair.
Sure.
Relax.
Not a problem.
It will work out.
I wouldn’t worry if I were you.
You’re a hard worker.
You’re a good person.
You’ll figure it out.
You’ll do the right thing.
You can always change your mind.
I think you’ll do just fine.
It will be OK.
Take your time.
There’s no hurry.
I understand.
I trust you.
I love you.
I’m proud of you.
I’ll be here when you get home.

Because bad things really do happen to people we love, and we might wonder if we could have said something different.

 

5 Comments »

  1. After reading this I realized that I hadn’t kissed him goodnight. And so I did.

    Thanks for the reminder, Maezen.

    Much love to you.

    Comment by Stvn — December 3, 2015 @ 6:16 pm

  2. Whatever you say or don’t say, you supply a little drop of the situation. You can make it supportive, funny, challenging, negative. In just a flash, you don’t have time to think of every possibility. Usually, authenticity helps, pays.

    Comment by Bill — December 4, 2015 @ 6:17 am

  3. No control.
    None.
    Except how we are in each moment.
    Love fiercely with no regrets.

    gassho

    Comment by Mary Sherman — December 4, 2015 @ 8:22 am

  4. If you don’t say something neutral but instead do your own snarling, your own criticizing, give yourself a break. Then, find the snarlee and unsnarl.

    Comment by Bill — December 4, 2015 @ 8:41 am

  5. So well put. Thank you.

    Comment by Arti — December 4, 2015 @ 11:19 pm

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